Undercover Bridesmaid

I went to the wedding of a friend this weekend. The wedding was lovely, but what I particularly want to point out one of the ways she simplified her wedding to suit her Quaker values. Quakers don't have ministers at their service, so you can imagine that a bunch of attendents in matching dresses would be a bit gauche. Instead of having attendents, her would-be bridesmaids dubbed themselves a variety of names ("faux bridesmaids", "not-a-bridesmaid", and probably the best "undercover bridesmaid") and we took on many of the traditional duties, but without the expensive dress and flowers: fielding panicked phone calls from the bride, throwing a shower tea, helping her dress, etc. I have to say -- it was lovely and I recommend it to anyone looking for a way to simplify their wedding.